Blog #15: My BHAM: Am I Setting Myself Up for Failure or Success?

While we can’t control the tide or the winds, we can set our sails to move in the right direction.

Inertia – Wikipedia

Inertia is the resistance of any physical object to any change in its velocity. This includes changes to the object’s speed, or direction of motion. An aspect of this property is the tendency of objects to keep moving in a straight lie at a constant speed, when no forces act upon them.

Fifteen days into my Big Hairy Audacious Month, and inertia is making itself felt.There is definitely resistance to change. It is not so much resistance to changing the speed of my life, as it is resistance to moving in the direction of having a healthier body, making a more hospitable home, creating more beauty, experiencing more peace, and trying new things.  All in all, the hope of this BHAM, these 31 days, is to escape the inertia that can hold me in a straight trajectory of moving forward in a straight line, exactly as I am., without any renewal of body, mind or spirit.

But the resistance is strong. Inertia is pulling at me. Habits, perfectionism, self-doubt and negative thoughts act on my will and I begin to wonder, “Have Just set myself up for failure by creating these Big Hairy Audacious Goals for this month? Is this just a fancy way of dieting that is doomed from the beginning?”  The temptation to skip a day of blogging, or replace my glass of  water with Mountain Dew whispers in my ear.

I have framed this month’s goals as steps, not as results.  My goal is not to lose 25 pounds in a month, my goal is to drink more water, with the intention of losing an inch off my waistline..  My goal is not to have a perfectly ordered home, but rather to follow the FlyLady’s 31 steps.  This time I’m combatting the relentless force of inertia by choosing a new way to live for 31 days rather than achieve tremendous results in a month. I think it’s the more spiritually healthy option.

How many diets have ended and the result has ultimately been weight gain? Many, many! Exercise bicycles that are now clothes racks? Decluttering by dragging everything out of the closet, then getting exhausted, and so too tired to continue, you leave the stuff all over the living room.  Unrealistic goals set us up for failure; realistic steps toward Big Hairy Goals set us up for an Audacious life!

Day 16 is coming, half-way through the audacious experiment. So time to move beyond inertia: in the words of the Borg: resistance is futile!

Until tomorrow:

Deep peace of the running wave to you.
Deep peace of the flowing air to you.
Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.
Deep peace of the shining stars to you.
Deep peace of the infinite peace to you.

Grace and peace to you! 



One thought on “Blog #15: My BHAM: Am I Setting Myself Up for Failure or Success?

  1. I love your writing, Caroline. I remember worshipping at First Pres in Lex the first Sunday I was in town and moving in. I wasn’t “on” yet at Grace. I loved your preaching because it was so well crafted, beautiful, thought provoking, truth-telling, and full of Grace. I remember thinking how blessed they were to have you as their pastor, and how I hoped we could be friends! So grateful that you let me be your friend!


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